What’s It All About?
In the last few weeks you might have seen one of the latest parenting trends to hit the internet. This time it’s all about feeding our babies and it has a great message behind it. It’s called “The Tree of Life”. People have been taking photographs of themselves breast or bottle feeding their babies, they then use an app called ‘PicsArt’ to edit their pictures to show a tree growing from breast – to baby.
It’s a lovely idea and has spread quickly with mummies all over the world wanting to take part. It shows that when we feed our babies, we are continuing to nourish them as we always did in the womb, and are continuing to give them life. I think It’s a lovely idea with an artistic twist. I also think it normalises breast feeding which is as important as ever, as are still people out there who frown upon breastfeeding mothers for whatever reason!
Whilst all this is fabulous, I have seen a negative side to it all, and I am disappointed to say that I have seen such negative comments come from other mummies. There are other mums saying the tree of life photos have made them feel bad about not being able to breastfeed. I have seen women say that the photos are unfair to bottle feeding mums, and accusing the tree of life mommas of insinuating that formula feeding momma’s don’t qualify for tree of life esq pictures!!! I have seen breastfeeding mums also hit out at ‘FF’ mumma’s saying things like – “they are jealous” or that “creating these pictures with bottles are stupid!!!” What?!?! Well, I have something to say to the haters!! STOP! This is madness ladies!
As a mummy who so very desperately wanted to exclusively breastfeed, and could not for many reasons. I have to say that I don’t understand where this bitterness is coming from or why it’s necessary. As a mummy who waited 6 days for my milk to come in, I was forced to give my very hungry daughter formula from a little cup as my colostrum just wasn’t enough for her, and I wanted to avoid nipple confusion. I then cried buckets of relief when my milk came in but was so sore from pumping and trying to feed, that by the time my milk came in I couldn’t stand to have Belle latched on. I then pumped exclusively for 3 weeks before giving in and turning to the formula and bottle, I was sad about it, BUT my baby was still fed. She thrived regardless and that is what matters.
Giving birth, especially the first time is so tough and relentless. So much is expected of our bodies to get that little life into the world. It is then expected to nourish that life! Even for momma’s who have quicker and easier births, the fact we can do this is just amazing beyond words! Women are truly wonderful creatures. If those women need a picture of a tree of life to show how proud they are of nourishing that baby, they should go for it! It is something to be proud of! So is bottle feeding, there is little difference in my eyes! Fed is fed and no matter how you chose to do it, or even if its not what you would have preferred, like me! Own it! It’s OK! Be proud!
Instead of tearing each other down over the tree of life, lets back each other up! Yay for breastfeeding mommas! You ladies rock! You pulled through those first harder days and you are giving your child the best start to life! Yay for Formula mommas too! You might have had a really hard time letting go of the idea of breastfeeding, like I did, or you might have chosen formula from the start. Both are OK, and you too are giving your child the best start to life! You all rock!
Parenting is hard enough! Lets work together to make it a little easier. Love each other, don’t judge and be kind!
Love From Me <3